Tuesday, July 25, 2017

THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL (revisited)

The root of all evil isn't MONEY, contrary to popular belief. It's JEALOUSY. How so? Consider the greatest of all possible evils - MONOTHEISM - as expressed in the utterly psychotic statement: "Thou shalt have no other gods before me, for I am a jealous god." You may substitute "goddess" for "god" and the results are equally abysmal.

Just ask yourself this: if you were indeed the One and Only Deity in Existence, would you be constantly looking over your shoulder in anticipation of rivals or threats to your Absolute Status? In Barbara Hand Clow's nebulous tome, The Pleiadian Agenda, I was struck by a powerful quote attributed to the Prophet Isaiah: "Monotheism breeds fanatical anthropocentrism, which eventually destroys Earth." How absolutely and tragically true.

Such a jealous, spiteful, insecure, and vengeful deity can only engender generations of jealous, spiteful, insecure, and vengeful humans. The Old Testament records the first instance of murder in the story of Cain and Abel. The archetypal case of sibling rivalry wherein a deity plays favorites with two brothers over their ritual offerings and arouses a jealousy so intense it leads to fratricide. Fast forward to Abraham and his sister-wife Sara, whose greed and jealousy result in the unjust expulsion of Hagar, the servant who bore Abe his first-born son, Ishmael. Behold, the remote descendants of Ishmael (generically known as Arabs) to this day continue to be cruelly treated by the remote descendants of Sara's freak-birth progeny, Isaac (generically known as Jews)!

My savage punk wife Anoora is a real cutie... except when possessed by the demon, Jealousy. This demon she inherited from her mother, whose emotional insecurity was pathological to the degree that it drove two previous husbands to drink, distraction and, eventually, divorce. Anoora's ego insecurity very nearly drove me mad during the first few years of my sharing space with her. She couldn't even tolerate my having a conversation with another woman.

Yet, as time passed, she reserved the right to ogle every good-looking young man who came to stay with us - and after a while became emboldened enough to openly flirt with them. I'm happy to report that in the last two or three years, Anoora has finally matured and relaxed to the extent that she's now open to befriending my female visitors - sometimes to the extent of attempting to hijack their affections. The day Anoora manages to entice another man with her feminine charms, I would consider my Henry Higgins experiment a complete success. There's nothing sadder than being married to a spouse nobody else would contemplate borrowing for a wild weekend or even flirting with.

Now jealousy is in itself a self-fulfilling prophecy, in that the person you proclaim to love - and whose exclusive devotion and sexual attention you demand - invariably begins contemplating the pleasures of strange flesh as soon as nagging suspicion begins to rear its ugly, deformed head.

I can happily swear eternal allegiance, affection, and friendship to anybody who has won my heart... but to insist on exclusivity seems to me the epitome of insanity. Imagine vowing to eat at only one restaurant your entire life. That's an insult to FOOD!

The crux of the problem is that monotheistic religions have programmed their followers into believing there is only ONE way to be married, and only ONE interpretation of wedded bliss - and that's MONOGAMY!

My own parents were married for more than 60 years... but Dad probably had that many lovers on the side (and Mum quite a few too, though far more discreetly)... and most folks do indulge in a fair amount of "illicit" (read "unlicenced") sex, only problem being they have to be hypocritical and sneaky about their behavior - instead of being good-humored, honest, and open-hearted about their own testosteronal or pheromonal propensities. Of all the women I've known, perhaps only two or three were virgins before they met me - but I've certainly loved and cherished the others no less, and enjoyed them all the more for their sexual experience and emotional maturity.

I'm convinced that if POLYAMORY was included as another way to explore LOVE and HARMONY, the world would blossom into a spiritually wholesome and truth-valuing place - where deceit, hypocrisy, guilt, and vindictiveness cannot flourish, and destructive jealousy will be seen for what it is: an emotional disease!

I feel sufficiently seasoned to declare myself a pantheistic pansexual. That's right, folks: everything and everybody is actually quite edible if your perception is pristinely unclouded.

Polyamory: The Next Sexual Revolution?

[First posted 7 January 2007, reposted 7 January 2011 & 11 September 2016]


semuanya OK kot said...

"The psychology of adultery has been falsified by conventional morals which assume, in monogamous countries, that attraction to one person cannot coexist with a serious affection for another. Everybody knows that this is untrue." - Prof. Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals, 1929

A study at Bradley U in 2008, of 35,000 people in 57 countries, found that the men who succeed in casual sex with women are (a) extroverted and narcissistic, (b) impulsive and callous, and (c) deceitful and exploitative. Strangly, this scientific effort had nothing corresponding to say about women.

"Sexual promiscuity is the rule in every taxonomic twig of the great tree of life. Species in which male and female bond to raise their young or in which there is a dominant male are no different. In all species of mammals and birds, anywhere from 10 to 70% of the offspring are sired by a specimen other than the resident male." - Prof. David Barash & Judith Lipton, Myth of Monogamy, 2008

When the white supremacist party was in power in South Africa, a genetic assay of a sample of its members showed that a good number (maybe 40% - of them had some African (black) genes.

The facts may not be pleasant, but that's what they are. This is not to deny the consequences of acting on attraction. Jealousy is a fact of life, which may relate to expectations, cultural programming or false declarations of exclusive allegiance.

chandra said...

A LOT OF WHAT YOU SAY HAS BEEN SAID BY osho........rajneesh.

I am in full agreement with what you say



Anonymous said...

Do you seriously don't see the link between casual sex and increasing cases of abandoned, even murdered babies in our society?

Anonymous said...

The root of all evils is IGNORANCE!

Starmandala said...

Chandra - Osho and I agree on a lot of things mainly because we both have learnt how to see with clear eyes and clean souls. We also were exposed to pretty much the same early influences ;-)

Anonymous @ 4:54PM - Sex, whether casual or formal, is not the issue. It's the erotophobic, life-denying, guilt-inflicting, fear-promoting negative attitudes towards human sexuality you find embedded in Abrahamic belief systems that lead to societal castigation, stigmatization and the abandoned baby syndrome.

Anonymous said...

A friend's friend slept with her boyfren, got pregnant and they were separted. The baby was sent to an orphanage after birth. While the mother has another boyfren to sleep with, and the "father" has new girlfren(s) to sleep with, along the way they probably have other babies, which they are prudent enough to have them aborted.

I visited the baby in the orphanage once, she cling on to me so tight when I cuddled her, other babies squeezing their way through trying to have their turn for a hug, the orphanage caretaker said these babies just loved to be cuddled or hug, they r desparate for affection. Try to tell these babies about "life denying" attitude.

As for "Guilt-inflicting" and "fear-promoting", I fail to see much if any in the parents who abandoned their babies.

Starmandala said...

Anon @ 1:50PM - I can feel you have a tender heart and of course it's sad to see unloved or abandoned children. When humans become desensitized and incapable of empathy, it's usually because they grew up in a rigid, authoritarian, patriarchal and punitive society controlled by a power-greedy evil priesthood. You can't legislate against sexuality. It would be akin to putting up municipal signboards warning the wind not to blow too hard or banning the rain from falling on the ground. However, you can delegislate the narrowminded, hypocritical attitudes that cause humans to remain spiritually, emotionally and mentally immature even when they are biologically adult. I do hope you understand what I'm attempting to express.

SFGEMS said...

I'm really glad you reloaded this. I missed it since it was way beyond my blog awakening.

I think it's natural to feel a twinge of jealousy occasionally. It's very much an instinct we feel about what we perceive to be ours.

I believe it's rather nice for my hubby to show a little jealousy. :D

Starmandala said...

Hiya Lita - Sweet of you to drop by! You're quite right, it seems almost "natural" to feel twinges of jealousy - and I am certainly not entirely free of this primitive program myself. It comes as a package with the process of individualization, a necessary phase of evolution. But with individualization also comes "the skin-encapsulated ego" - and that's the part that often goes beyond feeling twinges of jealousy. Some twinges become so violent they result in murder or slander or hostile family break-ups. And it's mostly just an ego reaction - nothing to do with LOVE at all! So, on the superficial egoic level, I can feel those twinges of jealousy you describe, but I refuse to allow them to take over my emotional body. I merely acknowledge those twinges, laugh at them, and offer them a cup of tea and some sage advice... usually the twinges see the light and run off to play in the yard :-)